For most of my life, I was very good at seeing the story.
As a creative director, designer, and filmmaker, I spent more than 30 years helping people and organizations uncover what they wanted to say, strip away what was getting in the way, and communicate something true. I led creative teams, built brands, directed campaigns, and created award-winning work for entertainment, media, and global companies.
My career included creative leadership at respected New York and Los Angeles studios, along with campaigns for networks, brands and studios including ABC, CBS, HBO, MTV, Paramount, Citi, Maybelline, Garnier, and many more… including a record season for RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars and LOGO. My work received Emmy and BDA recognition, and I earned my degree in Film Production and Theater Direction from the University of Miami.
I could recognize a weak story, a confused message, or an image that was not telling the truth. It took much longer to see the story running my own relationships.
I knew how to direct everything except my own life.
I grew up learning that safety came from being invisible, accommodating, sensitive to everyone else’s emotions, and as close to perfect as possible.
Those adaptations helped me succeed. They made me perceptive, creative, responsible, and highly attuned to the people around me.
They also taught me how to disappear.
I carried those patterns into adulthood and into love. I confused accommodation with empathy. Intensity with intimacy. Over-functioning with commitment. I could understand almost anyone’s behavior while steadily abandoning my own needs, anger, desire, and authority.
Eventually, the life I had constructed stopped working.
My marriage ended. I went to rehab. I believed I had lost everything.
Rehab saved my life. Therapy helped me become functional again. Twelve-Step recovery gave me structure, fellowship, and a way forward.
But sobriety also removed the thing I had used to escape myself.
The triggers were still there. The fear was still there. The relationship patterns were still there. I understood a great deal about my history, yet my body could still react as though the past were happening all over again.
Knowing why was not the same as becoming free.
Jungian work changed the question.
Instead of continuing to ask, “What is wrong with me?” Or even “What’s wrong with YOU?”, I began asking:
What part of me had I been forced to leave behind?
Jungian shadow work helped me recognize that the qualities I feared or rejected—anger, selfishness, vulnerability, desire, authority—were not proof that I was broken or bad. They were parts of my humanity that needed to be reclaimed in healthier forms.
Anger could become protection.
Selfishness could become self-care.
Vulnerability could become intimacy.
Authority could become self-leadership.
What began as recovery became something larger: the work of building a self I no longer had to abandon in order to be accepted.
That is the foundation of Relationship King.
I have started over more than once.
My life has not followed a straight line.
Alongside my creative career, I became a PADI dive instructor, worked as a divemaster, and managed dive resorts in Honduras and Indonesia. I taught people how to breathe through fear, trust their training, remain aware of their environment, and respond without panicking when conditions changed.
It turned out to be excellent preparation for relationship coaching.
Underwater, pretending you are not afraid does not make you safer. Neither does fighting the current, holding your breath, or abandoning your own awareness to follow someone else.
You learn to stay present.
You learn to recognize what is happening.
You learn what belongs to you.
And you learn when it is time to surface.
I bring lived experience—not a perfected persona.
I am a gay man who has come out, loved, married, divorced, gotten sober, rebuilt a life, and confronted what it means to begin again in midlife.
I understand the emotional and generational complexities that can accompany sexuality, masculinity, identity, nontraditional relationships, divorce, recovery, and starting over.
I also understand how easy it is to turn healing into another performance—to learn all the right language while remaining disconnected from what you actually feel and want.
You do not need another person telling you how you are supposed to live. You need a place where you can tell the truth.
My work now
I am a certified Jungian Life Coach through CreativeMind University’s ICF-accredited coach training program., and I am continuing my studies as a Master Coach.
My work combines Jungian depth coaching, relationship coaching, lived recovery, creative insight, and more than three decades of helping people clarify who they are and communicate it with greater honesty.
I work with men and women—straight, LGBTQ+, monogamous, open, polyamorous, partnered, dating, divorced, or single.
You do not have to be in a relationship to do relationship work.
Your relationships live inside you: in what you expect, what you tolerate, what you pursue, what you avoid, and what you believe you must become in order to be loved.
What we do together
We name the pattern.
We stop debating what is happening and look honestly at the triggers, protective roles, emotional agreements, and recurring dynamics shaping your relationships.
We reclaim the shadow.
We recover the anger, desire, vulnerability, needs, boundaries, and authority you may have learned to suppress in order to remain safe or connected.
We build your relational spine.
Your voice. Your standards. Your boundaries. Your self-trust. Your capacity to remain yourself when love becomes emotionally charged.
I will not diagnose your partner or tell you who you should become.
I will help you stop losing yourself.
This is not about becoming king over anyone else.
It is about becoming the benevolent ruler of your own life. Not domination. Not ego. Not emotional armor. Self-rule means you can hear another person without surrendering your reality. You can care deeply without collapsing. You can love without begging. You can give without disappearing. You can remain open-hearted without remaining wide open to harm.
That is the movement from:
Fuck me. Why is this happening again?
To:
Fuck this. I finally see the pattern.
To:
Fuck off. This no longer gets to rule me.
And ultimately:
Fuck yeah! This is the life and love I choose.
You do not need a better performance. You need a life in which you are finally allowed to be fully present. Let’s take back your crown.
Certified Jungian Depth Coach
CreativeMind University’s ICF-accredited training program
Master Coach Studies
Advanced training currently underway
30+ Years of Creative Leadership
Branding, storytelling, filmmaking, and team direction
Emmy & BDA-Recognized Creative Work
BS, Film Production & Theater Direction
University of Miami
PADI Dive Instructor
International resort and adventure experience
A private 30 minute conversation about where you are, what keeps repeating, and whether this work is the right fit.