I spent more than 30 years helping brands decide who they were.

As a creative director, designer, and filmmaker, I helped organizations clarify their values, personality, voice, and the experience they wanted to create. I led creative teams, built brands, directed campaigns, and created award-recognized work for entertainment, media, and global companies.

Eventually, I realized those same questions matter just as much in a human life:

What do I stand for?
What no longer fits?
How do I want to show up—and what keeps pulling me away from that?

That insight became a bridge between my creative work and coaching. I don’t help people construct a more marketable persona. I help them recognize the identities they learned to perform for love, approval, or safety—and become more intentional about how they live, love, and lead.

I could recognize when a brand’s story was confused or no longer telling the truth. It took much longer to recognize the story running my own life.

I didn’t become Coach I knew how to direct everything except my own life.

I grew up learning that safety came from being invisible, accommodating, sensitive to everyone else’s emotions, and as close to perfect as possible. Those adaptations helped me succeed. They made me perceptive, creative, responsible, and highly attuned to the people around me.

They also taught me how to disappear.

I carried those patterns into adulthood and into love. I confused accommodation with empathy, intensity with intimacy, and over-functioning with commitment. I could understand almost anyone’s behavior while steadily abandoning my own needs, anger, desire, and authority.

Eventually, the life I had constructed stopped working. My marriage ended. I went to rehab. I believed I had lost everything.

Rehab saved my life. Therapy helped me become functional again. Twelve-Step recovery gave me structure, fellowship, and a way forward.

But sobriety also removed the thing I had used to escape myself. The triggers, fear, and relationship patterns were still there. I understood a great deal about my history, yet my body could still react as though the past were happening all over again.

Knowing why was not the same as becoming free.

Jungian work changed the question.

Instead of continuing to ask, “What is wrong with me?”—or even, “What’s wrong with you?”—I began asking:

What part of me had I been forced to leave behind?

Jungian shadow work helped me recognize that the qualities I feared or rejected—anger, selfishness, vulnerability, desire, and authority—were not proof that I was broken or bad. They were parts of my humanity that needed to be reclaimed in healthier forms.

Anger could become protection.

Selfishness could become self-care.

Vulnerability could become intimacy.

Authority could become self-leadership.

What began as recovery became something larger: the work of building a self I no longer had to abandon in order to be accepted.

That is the foundation of Relationship King.

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A private 30-minute conversation about what keeps repeating and whether this work is right for you.

I bring lived experience, not a perfected persona.

I am a gay man who has come out, loved, married, divorced, gotten sober, rebuilt a life, and confronted what it means to begin again in midlife. I understand the complexities that can accompany sexuality, masculinity, identity, nontraditional relationships, recovery, divorce, and starting over.

My life has not followed a straight line. Alongside my creative career, I became a PADI dive instructor and managed dive resorts in Honduras and Indonesia. Teaching people to breathe through fear, remain aware, and respond without panicking turned out to be excellent preparation for relationship coaching.

I also understand how easy it is to turn healing into another performance—to learn all the right language while remaining disconnected from what you actually feel and want.

You do not need another person telling you who you are supposed to become. You need a place where you can tell the truth.

What we do together

I work with men and women—straight, LGBTQ+, monogamous, open, polyamorous, partnered, dating, divorced, or single. You do not have to be in a relationship to do relationship work. Your relationships live inside you: in what you expect, tolerate, pursue, avoid, and believe you must become in order to be loved.

We name the pattern.
We look honestly at the triggers, protective roles, emotional agreements, and recurring dynamics shaping your relationships.

We reclaim the shadow.
We recover the anger, desire, vulnerability, needs, boundaries, and authority you may have suppressed to remain safe or connected.

We build your relational spine.
Your voice. Your standards. Your boundaries. Your self-trust. Your ability to remain yourself when emotions run high.

I will not diagnose your partner or tell you who you should become.

I will help you stop losing yourself.

This is not about becoming king over anyone else.

Relationship King means becoming the benevolent ruler of your own life. Not domination. Not ego. Not emotional armor.

Self-rule means you can hear another person without surrendering your reality. You can care deeply without collapsing. You can give without disappearing. You can remain open-hearted without remaining wide open to harm.

That is the movement from:

Fuck me.Why is this happening again?

To:

Fuck this.I finally see the pattern.

To:

Fuck off.This no longer gets to rule me.

And ultimately:

Fuck yeah!This is the life and love I choose.

You do not need a better performance. You need a life in which you are finally allowed to be fully present.

Let’s take back your crown.