Am I a Narcissist?
A free, non-diagnostic relationship patterns quiz
Explore your patterns through a compassionate, psychologically informed mirror—not a verdict.
Understand Your Patterns, Not Just the Label
Perhaps someone has called you selfish, controlling, emotionally unavailable, manipulative—or narcissistic.
Perhaps similar feedback has followed you through more than one relationship. Or perhaps you have begun to notice that when you feel criticized, rejected, overlooked, powerless, or ashamed, something in you takes over.
You defend yourself. You withdraw. You blame. You become controlling. You perform strength. You dismiss the other person’s feelings. Or you become so overwhelmed by shame that accountability feels like an attack on your entire identity.
That does not automatically mean you have Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
But it may mean there is a pattern worth facing.
Non-diagnostic. Private. Designed for reflection, not labeling.
The Am I a Narcissist? Relationship Patterns Quiz is an original, non-diagnostic self-assessment created to help you recognize the protective defenses that may be affecting intimacy, empathy, accountability, and repair.
In approximately eight minutes, you will explore six patterns:
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How approval, recognition, achievement, attractiveness, generosity, or being indispensable may shape your sense of worth.
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How shame, sensitivity, withdrawal, and concealed vulnerability may prevent you from being fully known.
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How pressure, anger, charm, guilt, silence, or resistance to boundaries may help you avoid feeling powerless or rejected.
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How empathy and curiosity can disappear when another person’s experience conflicts with your own.
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How disowned feelings, motives, and traits may be placed onto other people through blame, judgment, idealization, or devaluation.
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How explanations, justifications, avoidance, or demands for forgiveness can interfere with accountability and meaningful repair.
Non-diagnostic. Private. Designed for reflection, not labeling.
Your personalized results will identify your primary and secondary patterns and help you understand what activates them, what they may be protecting, how they affect your relationships, and what capacity can help you begin changing them.
This assessment draws on relationship dynamics and Jungian ideas about Persona, Shadow, projection, and the parts of ourselves we have difficulty recognizing or accepting. The purpose is not to decide whether you are a good or bad person, but to help you see the difference between the person you intend to be and the protective behavior that appears when you feel threatened.
This is a pattern—not a life sentence.
Take the quiz and discover what may be standing between you and the relationship you actually want.
Begin the Free Quiz
Important Note
This assessment is intended for education, personal reflection, and growth. It is not a clinically validated psychological test and cannot diagnose or rule out Narcissistic Personality Disorder or any other mental-health condition. Only a qualified mental-health professional can provide a clinical assessment or diagnosis.