Relationship coaching is a focused, collaborative process that helps you recognize the patterns shaping your relationships—and make conscious choices about what happens next.

Therapy often addresses mental health conditions, trauma symptoms, diagnosis, and healing from the past. Coaching is generally more action-oriented and future-focused. We may explore where a pattern began, but the goal is not simply to understand it. The goal is to change how you respond to it now.

In our work, we identify the triggers, beliefs, attachment patterns, and survival strategies that keep repeating. Through trauma-aware practices, Jungian shadow work, and loving confrontation, we build your relational spine: your voice, boundaries, desire, emotional capacity, and self-trust.

Coaching does not replace psychotherapy or medical care. In some cases, coaching and therapy work beautifully together. If your needs fall outside the scope of coaching, I will be honest about that and encourage you to seek the appropriate support.

Therapy may help you understand why you became who you are.

Coaching helps you decide who you are ready to become—and practice becoming them.

Choose a coach whose experience, approach, and values align with the work you are ready to do—but also pay attention to how you feel in their presence.

A good coach should help you feel safe enough to be honest and challenged enough to grow. You should feel seen, respected, and free to ask questions—not pressured, judged, or told what your life should look like.

Ask about their training, methods, boundaries, and experience with the issues you want to address. Listen for more than credentials. Do they understand the patterns beneath the problem? Can they hold compassion without enabling you—and offer direct feedback without shaming you?

Most importantly, trust your nervous system. The right coach will not promise to rescue you. They will help you reclaim your voice, strengthen your self-trust, and become the authority in your own life.

That is why I offer a free consultation: so we can talk honestly about what is happening, what you want to change, and whether we are the right fit to do the work together.

Most coaching sessions take place through Zoom, giving us the freedom to work together wherever you are—with privacy, consistency, and no commute.

For clients in Northern New Mexico, in-person sessions are also available at my office in Taos.

Whether we meet on-screen or face-to-face, the work is the same: a confidential, focused space where you can tell the truth, get beneath the patterns keeping you stuck, and build the voice, boundaries, and self-trust to make real change.

We will choose the format that best supports you and the work.

I offer coaching programs designed to create meaningful change over six to twelve months. The investment depends on the level of support, frequency of sessions, and the depth of the work we choose together.

Broken down hourly, the cost is comparable to a good massage—but the goal is not temporary relief. It is lasting transformation: stronger boundaries, greater self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life that feels more like your own.

I also offer a local community rate, along with a limited sliding scale for people who are genuinely committed to the work but need financial flexibility.

We will talk openly about the investment during your consultation. No pressure. No hidden fees. Just an honest conversation about what you need, what I offer, and whether it is the right fit.

Real transformation takes longer than a breakthrough conversation. My core programs are designed around two levels of commitment: six months to build Relationship Sovereignty, and twelve months to step fully into Relationship King.

With new clients, I ask for a minimum commitment because this work is a journey—not a quick fix. Shadow work, in particular, can bring up resistance, fear, and the urge to retreat just when something important is beginning to shift.

That does not mean the work is failing. Often, it means we have reached the edge of the pattern that has been protecting you.

A structured program—and a real financial commitment—helps create the consistency and accountability to return, complete the integration, and work through the moments when your ego says, “This is not for me.”

We do not force the process or ignore legitimate concerns. We bring them into the room, tell the truth about them, and work through them together.

Because the resistance is not outside the process.

It is the process.

Yes. Privacy is fundamental to this work. You need a space where you can tell the truth—without fear of judgment, exposure, or having your story used against you.

What you share in our sessions stays between us, except in the limited circumstances where disclosure may be required by law or necessary to address an immediate risk of harm.

Your story belongs to you. I treat it with care, discretion, and respect.

For a detailed explanation of how personal information is collected, stored, and protected, please visit the Privacy Policy page.

Yes. I work with individuals, couples, and partners exploring Ethical Non-Monogamy, polyamory, and open relationships.

This work is not about forcing yourself to be “more evolved” or pretending jealousy does not exist. It is about getting honest about what you want, what you fear, and what you need to feel respected and secure.

Together, we can work through attachment triggers, jealousy, communication, agreements, boundaries, sexual identity, and the emotional realities of opening or navigating a relationship.

There is no single “right” relationship structure. There is only the one you choose consciously—with honesty, consent, integrity, and enough relational spine to speak your truth without abandoning yourself or controlling someone else.

Your relationships. Your agreements. Your self-rule.

Yes. Career changes, retirement, relocation, divorce, recovery, creative reinvention, and other major life transitions can shake your sense of identity—even when the change is one you chose.

Together, we look beneath the practical decision to the deeper questions: Who are you becoming? What are you ready to leave behind? What fears, loyalties, or old definitions of success are keeping you stuck?

This work can help you separate what you truly want from what you were taught to want, rebuild confidence after loss or burnout, and make choices that reflect your values rather than your fear.

A transition is not just an ending. It is an invitation to stop living by an outdated script and begin creating a life that actually belongs to you.

Not just a new job. A new relationship with your own authority.

Yes. I use trauma-aware coaching practices to help clients recover from relationships marked by manipulation, emotional volatility, self-abandonment, or narcissistic patterns.

The work begins by restoring safety, clarity, and self-trust. We identify the patterns that kept you stuck, strengthen your boundaries, and help you reconnect with the voice you may have learned to silence in order to keep the peace.

When working with partners, I use loving confrontation—not blame or humiliation. We name harmful behaviors honestly while staying focused on the relationship’s shared goals, mutual interests, and each partner’s responsibility for creating change.

The goal is not to diagnose or decide who is the villain. It is to uncover what is happening, determine whether repair is possible, and help you stop abandoning yourself in the name of love.

Compassion without accountability enables the pattern. Accountability without compassion creates more shame. Real change requires both.

Healing begins by getting honest about what happened—without minimizing it, romanticizing it, or blaming yourself for everything that went wrong.

First, we create safety. That may mean limiting contact, strengthening boundaries, reducing emotional reactivity, and learning how to recognize the triggers that keep pulling you back into the cycle.

Then, we name the pattern. We look at the manipulation, inconsistency, self-abandonment, over-functioning, or trauma bonds that made the relationship so difficult to leave—and so easy to repeat.

From there, the work becomes deeper. We grieve what was lost, rebuild trust in your own perception, and explore the shadow material underneath the attraction: the parts of you that learned to confuse intensity with intimacy, anxiety with chemistry, or self-sacrifice with love.

Finally, we build your relational spine—your voice, boundaries, desire, and self-trust—so you can stop choosing from fear and start choosing relationships that are reciprocal, respectful, and emotionally safe.

The goal is not simply to get over someone.

It is to become someone who no longer abandons themselves to be loved.

Yes. I offer an affirming, nonjudgmental space for clients exploring sexual orientation, gender identity, relationship structure, desire, or what it means to live more openly and authentically.

As a gay man, I understand this work personally—not just professionally. I have experienced different seasons and structures of relationship, including monogamy, open relationships, “don’t ask, don’t tell” arrangements, polyamory, and being single. I know what it is like to question what you want, renegotiate agreements, confront jealousy or shame, and discover that the relationship model you inherited may not be the one that fits your life.

You do not need to arrive with a label—or force yourself into one. Together, we can explore what feels true, what feels inherited, and what fear, family expectations, cultural pressure, or past experience may be making difficult to hear.

This work may include coming out, navigating changing relationships, exploring new relationship structures, setting boundaries, rebuilding self-trust, or making peace with parts of yourself you were taught to hide.

My role is not to tell you who you are or how your relationships should look. It is to help you separate your truth from the noise, strengthen your voice, and create relationships rooted in honesty, consent, integrity, and self-respect.

I know what it is like to take that journey.

Your identity is not a problem to solve. It is a relationship with yourself to deepen.

Moving on begins with getting clear about what happened—and stopping the endless debate about whether it was “bad enough” to count.

Narcissistic relationships can leave you doubting your memory, your judgment, and your right to have needs. You may know the relationship was harmful and still feel pulled back toward it. That does not make you weak. It means the pattern reached deep into your attachment system, your hope, and the parts of you that learned to work harder for love.

Using trauma-aware coaching practices, we begin by restoring safety and stability. We identify the manipulation, inconsistency, blame, gaslighting, or self-abandonment that kept you stuck. Then we strengthen boundaries, rebuild trust in your own perception, and grieve both the relationship you had and the one you kept hoping it would become.

The deeper work is understanding why this dynamic had such power over you—not to blame you, but to free you. Through shadow work, we uncover the fears, unmet needs, and old survival strategies that made intensity feel like intimacy or kept you proving your worth to someone unable or unwilling to meet you.

The goal is not simply to stop missing them.

It is to stop abandoning yourself for the possibility that they might finally choose you.

You do not heal by becoming colder. You heal by becoming clearer, stronger, and more loyal to your own truth.