If this is your relationship, it’s time to say F*ck This.
Not “f*ck them,” not “what’s wrong with me”—”f*ck this” dynamic: the charm that turns into confusion, the affection that comes in waves, the conversations where you leave doubting yourself, your needs getting minimized or flipped back on you, and the slow training of your nervous system to walk on eggshells.
Narcissism in a relationship rarely starts as obvious cruelty—it starts as intensity and feeling chosen, then turns into manipulation, missing empathy, and a reality where you’re always explaining, apologizing, or trying to “say it right” just to be treated with basic care.
Confused?
Doubt your own sanity?
Emotionally drained?
I work with men and women who are done negotiating with confusion.
If you’ve been stuck in the charm → self-doubt loop, I help you name the pattern cleanly, rebuild trust in your own perception, and set boundaries that actually hold—so you stop abandoning yourself to keep the peace. This is the shift from F*ck This (wake up) to F*ck Yeah (self-rule): clear voice, clean standards, and relationships built on respect instead of control.
How Narcissistic is your Partner?
Honestly answer 30 quick questions designed to measure your partner’s level of narcissism. Narcissism exists on a spectrum and everyone should have some level of healthy narcissism. This tool will help us gauge where they are on that spectrum, and evaluate your next steps.
How Narcissistic are You?
Looking in the mirror can be challenging, but honestly answer 40 quick questions designed to measure your level of narcissism. however you score, it gives us a insight. This tool will help us gauge where you are on that spectrum.
Accept it.
If they wanted to, they would.
People don’t generally change until they are in enough pain. Being a narcissist feels pretty good, so it’s rare they seek any kind of treatment.
There’s a reason you were attracted to them. They held a mirror up to you. And here’s the secret. There is a goldmine of subconscious information in that mirror waiting to be expressed. Your True Self lies in the debris.
Are YOU ready to make a change?
Why Narcissim?
I focus on narcissism because it’s become a cultural epidemic: image over intimacy, control over vulnerability, charisma without character. It shows up as chemistry without safety, intensity without accountability—and people can’t name it until it’s already taken their peace, their confidence, and their voice.
Jung called this shadow work: what we won’t face in ourselves gets acted out through our relationships. That’s why the same story can repeat with different faces. My Jungian coaching model helps you see the pattern, not just the person—tracking triggers, projections, and the parts of you that learned to over-give, over-explain, or abandon boundaries to stay connected.
This isn’t about diagnosing anyone. It’s about sovereignty. The goal isn’t to “win” or “lose”. The goal is to stop losing yourself—and build relationships that are real.
Listen Up
If you’re muttering “F*CK THIS” to yourself - congrats! You’re waking up.
This meditation helps you reset, draw the line, and return to self-rule.
Relationship King is a 6-month coaching container that takes you from confusion, chemistry addiction, and blurred boundaries… to clarity, self-rule, and real love.
This is not soft. It’s not vague. It’s a process.
90 Days to Self Rule
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In person or online meetings every two weeks to provide support and provide accountability. Email support through out your journey.
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The King is Dead. Long live the King!
Kill the voice in your head calling the shots. You’re in charge now.
Let’s look at what keeps you stuck in your current situation. Accept the reality and focus on building your internal power by removing the inner obstacles keeping you stuck.
Schedule your FREE CONSULTATION.
Relationship King in 180 Days
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In person or online meetings every two weeks to provide support and provide accountability. Email support through out your journey.
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Take charge of your Kingdom and speak with authority because. you know your own mind and heart.
Remove the inner obstacles keeping you stuck in old patterns, find your true voice and use it to build relationships that support and love you back.
Schedule your FREE CONSULTATION.
12 Months to Free Reign
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This is the Long Road to Rule.
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A healthy Kingdom provides. It provides time and means to dedicate to the higher good.
With your own house in order, you can afford to build. What kind of family and community to you want? Let’s define it and start building it.
the FAQs on Narcissism
Narcissistic Supply
Fuck that (the trap): You become a vending machine for their self-esteem—your attention, praise, sex, labor, money, empathy, and emotional reactions become their fuel.
What it is: Validation and emotional resources a narcissist extracts to regulate insecurity.
How it shows up: Neediness, drama-baiting, entitlement, punishment when you don’t “perform.”
Fuck yeah (the move): Stop feeding the machine. Reduce access, reduce reaction, reclaim your attention.
Triangulation
Fuck that: You’re forced into competition for love, safety, or legitimacy.
What it is: Introducing a third person to provoke jealousy/insecurity and maintain control.
How it shows up: Comparisons, flirting, “everyone agrees,” secret alliances.
Fuck yeah: No triangles. No auditions. “Talk to me directly or don’t talk to me.”
Love Bombing
Fuck that: Intensity masquerading as intimacy.
What it is: Excessive affection and attention used early to create fast attachment and dependency.
How it shows up: Soulmate talk, rushing commitment, constant contact, big gestures with little consistency.
Fuck yeah: Slow is sexy. Let time reveal truth. Consistency earns closeness.
Stonewalling
Fuck that: Silence used as a weapon—your nervous system starts begging for crumbs.
What it is: Withdrawing communication/affection to punish, dominate, or destabilize.
How it shows up: Silent treatment, cold exits, refusal to engage, emotional disappearance.
Fuck yeah: You don’t chase clarity from someone who withholds it. Set a time-bound boundary and disengage.
Future Faking
Fuck that: Big promises used like handcuffs—your hope becomes the leash.
What it is: False future plans (marriage/kids/shared life) to keep you invested without follow-through.
How it shows up: “Soon,” “one day,” after every blow-up—no steps, no timeline.
Fuck yeah: No action, no access. Plans require behavior, dates, and proof.
Idealization
Fuck that: You get crowned… so they can own you.
What it is: Pedestal-stage admiration that often sets up the fall.
How it shows up: “You’re perfect,” mirroring, obsession, rushing intimacy.
Fuck yeah: Stay grounded. Keep your life, your pace, your people. Love that rushes often controls.
Devaluation
Fuck that: The pedestal turns into a chopping block.
What it is: Systematic criticism, contempt, and erosion of self-worth after idealization fades.
How it shows up: Nitpicking, sarcasm, withdrawal, blame-shifts, moving goalposts.
Fuck yeah: Respect is the minimum. If it’s not mutual, it’s not love—it's control.
Trauma Bonding
Fuck that: Your body confuses relief with love.
What it is: Attachment formed through cycles of abuse/neglect followed by affection or apology (intermittent reward).
How it shows up: “I can’t leave,” cravings, withdrawals, obsessing after mistreatment.
Fuck yeah: Break the cycle, not your spirit. Consistent separation + support rewires the bond.
Gaslighting
Fuck that: You start doubting your own reality.
What it is: Manipulating you into questioning memory/perception by denying facts and rewriting events.
How it shows up: “That never happened,” “you’re crazy,” confident denial, contradiction.
Fuck yeah: Trust your perception. Document, reality-check, stop debating your sanity with someone committed to distortion.
Hoovering
Fuck that: The comeback tour—sudden charm, remorse, crisis, or rage to pull you back in.
What it is: Attempts to re-hook you after distance/breakup.
How it shows up: “I’ve changed,” gifts, apologies, emergencies, late-night messages.
Fuck yeah: Your boundary is the closure. No-contact (or minimal contact) protects your healing.
Discard
Fuck that: You’re dropped like you never mattered—because you mattered as a resource, not a person.
What it is: Abrupt abandonment once they don’t see value/control.
How it shows up: Ghosting, replacement, cold shutdown, sudden exit.
Fuck yeah: Let it be information. Their discard is your release. Rebuild where love doesn’t get turned off.
Word Salad
Fuck that: Confusion as a tactic—if you’re dizzy, you’ll surrender.
What it is: Circular, nonsensical, exhausting communication to avoid accountability.
How it shows up: Tangents, contradictions, semantics, “you’re the real abuser” pivots.
Fuck yeah: One sentence. One point. Then exit. Don’t wrestle in the mud.
Flying Monkeys
Fuck that: You’re surrounded by their messengers—pressure, spying, guilt, and smear delivery.
What it is: Third parties recruited to harass, pressure, or spread lies for them.
How it shows up: “They’re worried about you,” sudden group opinions, social pile-ons.
Fuck yeah: No debate with the crowd. “I’m not discussing this.” Block repeat offenders.
Gray Rocking
Fuck that: You keep feeding conflict thinking it’ll finally resolve.
What it is: Emotional neutrality to reduce manipulation and engagement when you can’t fully exit.
How it shows up: Short replies, no personal sharing, calm tone, no reactions to bait.
Fuck yeah: Be boring, be safe. Save your real feelings for people who can hold them.
Cognitive Dissonance
Fuck that: “They love me” and “they hurt me” can’t both be true—so your mind bends reality to survive.
What it is: Distress from conflicting beliefs that leads victims to rationalize abuse.
How it shows up: Minimizing, self-blame, chasing the “good version,” excusing patterns.
Fuck yeah: Choose reality over fantasy. Actions tell the truth. Make decisions from patterns, not peaks.
Smear Campaign
Fuck that: They control the story so you lose support—and they keep power.
What it is: Spreading narratives to damage credibility and isolate you.
How it shows up: “They’re unstable,” “they’re abusive,” twisting your private pain into public “proof.”
Fuck yeah: Stay clean. Stay consistent. Don’t over-explain. Share facts with key people, document everything.